Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Need I say more??? But seriously...

Seriously, being able to love the people in our lives - all of them, and all of the time - is an amazing and uncommon thing. I'd love to say I always do, but there's already enough BS in the world... so I will say I try to... and the result is that I often succeed, but sometimes not so much... Thoughts of judgement and harsh responses when my goals are blocked, or when I am tired, irritable or just being plain petty... sometimes, they come out and dance around my brain and out of my mouth before I can obliterate them. Sometimes, loving someone also means loving them enough to gently speak truth in love. Sometimes, loving them is refusing to enable them in destructive behaviors...

I think the older I get, the more compassionate and easy going I become. After years of impatience, frustration and venting, hurting others with careless words as a young man, something has died... and I am glad... funeral is over on that raging, silly person... so now, it's more working on the internal part - the one nobody much sees but me... and a very few who are really close to me. Working out those little nagging thoughts and attitudes that are not loving... so that I can truly pour myself out, selflessly, for those I love, and to let them know that nothing is more important to me than they are...

and that - would be complete success...
at least, as I define it...

J/

11 comments:

Stephanie said...

Wow. I'm so glad you commented on my blog a week or so ago, otherwise I would have never found yours. I'm finding myself deeply touched by your posts, relating in some way, and impressed with your writing. You're open, direct, and REAL. I like that.

Loving everyone...all the time...yeah, that would define who I'd like to be also. I just talked with my husband about this last night. I really struggle with one person. Someone close that I should not have a struggle with, yet I can not understand them. The behavior is so different than any I know...the actions, words, selfishness...I don't understand. All that bothers me stands in the way of me finding something to embrace about this person. I need God's intervention here! Great post...made me think once again about something very personal.

Thanks for sharing your comment on my Broken Road. Enjoying getting to "know" you. BTW, do you sleep?! :)

Badass Geek said...

This is a very interesting perspective... Intruiging.

Kel said...

very true...it's hard to be compasionate all of the time, to love each person all of the time, to be forgiving all of the time, but it is something we can strive for and work towards...bettering ourselves can only server to better those around us!
Have a great day!
~K

Krystyn said...

I think that right there is why there is only one God! Seriously, everybody all the time? Couldn't do it!

April said...

So, so true. This was an amazing post. I found myself shaking my head in agreement cuz it so hard sometimes to love everyone all the time...no matter how much we may want to. But as long as we try to be our best, and not be hurtful, that is a great thing, in my humble opinion.

Just telling it like it is said...

I am guilty of having jugdemental thoughts as well...but I try and think of how I will be judged on Jugdment day...and how I know that I am not perfect...hard for me to except...
It is acknowlegdement that makes you special

Brett Elizabeth Spore said...

"Sometimes, loving someone also means loving them enough to gently speak truth in love. Sometimes, loving them is refusing to enable them in destructive behaviors..."

These are the hardest parts of relationships.

Stephanie said...

Well said. I have noticed a change as I get older too. I am much less impatient and much more easy going and accepting of people.

angie said...

I'm with Stephanie, and other momo mom. It has been so refreshing to visit a males blog that has such touching and introspective posts.

Thanks for taking the time to stop by my blog (monoamnioticstories) so that I could discover yours. I look forward to more visits!

angie said...

oops, I meant to say another momo mom.

All Adither said...

So true. So true.